Wardrobe Decluttering for Men

Decluttering!  Everybody talks about doing it - "I've got too much STUFF!"  It's a ongoing task for some, and I'm always recommending wardrobe decluttering when my clients come for a consultation because it's the best way of implementing wearing colours and clothes that flatter you all the time because you don't have the wrong things to fall back on (or you at least know they aren't the best items for you and you can work to replace them in future shopping trips). 

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Choosing what to wear

I posted this video on my Facebook page last week.  It's all about some rather questionable choices that are made when partners choose what to wear for each other.  Watching the video, I realised there was more that I wanted to say about it.

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A Surreal Conversation about being a Life Coach

Have you ever held a conversation which you later look back on and think "well that was surreal"?  Now, it could be the content of the conversation was surreal, or it could be that the circumstances of where you held the conversation were surreal.  I have.  Several times.  Both types, but I think the conversation I had a recently might just have taken the biscuit.

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High Heels on the Red Carpet

I've been astounded this week to find that women are *supposed* to wear high heels on the red carpet.  At the Cannes Film Festival ushers to the event have been turning women away from walking the red carpet because they had the temerity to be wearing flat shoes.  That included older women and an amputee!  The organisers say that high heels are not part of the official dress code on the red carpet, but I can't imagine the ushers would take it into their heads to turn women away if it hadn't been a directive by somebody in authority.  

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Going for a job interview? What first impression do you make?

If you've read my blog for any length of time, or heard me speak at an event, I'll frequently talk about what impression you make when you meet somebody for the first time.  With job interviews, the stakes are raised.  You are being assessed for suitability for a job against a number of other people who all want to make a good impression too so it's essential that you're aware of how important first impressions are.

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How old am I?

If I knew more about Google Analytics, I might know whether the search term I saw pop up on this website from a visitor was because somebody was trying to find out about me, or whether it was about another Gillian Lewis (maybe Gillian Lewis, the English Character actress who I think may have been the inspiration for me being called Gillian): "How old is Gillian Lewis".

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This is the BBC

Well, I've always wanted to say that - after my brief brush with fame being paid to be on Playaway when I was 14.  Last week I was interviewed by BBC Radio Tees presenter, Mike Parr - on live radio!

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Don’t listen to your Negative Self-Talk

One of the most debilitating, confidence-sapping things we can do is to listen to our own Negative Self-Talk.  It's a key theme that I use in my work with clients.

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Lucky Pants – does your underwear give you confidence?

I recently attended a workshop with the irrepressible Steve Thompson at Teesside University (www.steve-thompson.org.uk).  We were discussing confidence and how, if you employ a "fake it till you make it" approach, you will constantly nudge at the edges of your comfort zone before finally realising that you do have confidence in a particular field.  

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Big Sky Thinking

I'm just back from the new Mackenzie Thorpe exhibition of Station Posters in Middlesbrough.  I love Mackenzie Thorpe's work, and find I am always drawn to his paintings with really beautiful big skylines with puffy clouds - although the ones with shepherds and sheep come a close second (and when he paints both together, I'm in heaven! :-D).  I once spoke to him about how much I loved the cloud filled scenes he painted and he told me he got the best results when he turned the painting upside down so he could gain a different perspective on the work.  Reflecting on that on the way home, I started to think of this as being "Big Sky Thinking" (rather than Blue Sky Thinking) and how that would be a pretty good way to help you achieve the best results too. 

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