Keeping up appearances – do you?

I’ve just read an article in the Metro that reports on a survey carried out. The survey identified the lengths to which some women are keeping up appearances. Apparently one in twenty of the 2000 surveyed will not allow themselves to be seen without a full face of makeup by their husbands or boyfriends!

Keeping up appearances - a blog post by Gillian Lewis: Spectrum - a Self-Image coach based in Darlington

From the Metro this morning

Are you in the Three Quarters or the One in Twenty?

What the article doesn’t make clear is the length of the relationship that this one woman in twenty is in since keeping up a perfect image is something apparently three quarters of women do for 19 months. So potentially Ms One in Twenty hasn’t got beyond the 19 month mark – but even so, that’s a long time.  My skin care routine is far too important to me to worry about whether I’m seen without makeup by my chap, although I do appreciate there are some things that should be done behind closed doors as the article suggests – like my occasional application of Jolen 😀

Whilst I know the important of makeup to self-image, and I’ve written about it often, I wouldn’t like to be stuck in a place where I felt that I couldn’t be seen without makeup by somebody who was an intimate – either through my beliefs or their expectations.

Makeup should enhance but not mask you. If you are unable to remove the mask at any time, ask yourself, what does that signify?  What benefit does it bring to you to continue with the practice?

How long were you “keeping up appearances” with your makeup?

I’d love to know how long it took you to go fully makeup free with your partner – leave a comment below.

 

As a postscript…

I told my chap about the survey and my post after writing it.  We talked about how long it was till he saw me bereft of makeup and we acknowledged it wasn’t long.

“And what does that say, do you think?” said I, expecting him to say that I felt comfortable with my appearance, or I was OK being vulnerable.

Deadpan, he replied “I have exceptionally low standards”.

It is just as well that we are still at the stage where that makes me guffaw with laughter 😀

I'd love to hear your comments on this post

Gillian Lewis
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Gillian Lewis

Self Image Coach at Gillian Lewis: Spectrum Coaching and Consultancy based in Darlington, County Durham, UK
What on earth is a Self-Image Coach I hear you ask – it’s cross between a Confidence Coach and Image Consultant.

I help clients become happier and more confident by giving them a Makeover from the Inside Out to change their internal and external view of themselves.

I'm not really interested in fashion, just what clothes can do for your self-image - that's where the Forget Fashion blog title originated, so I won't be doing much commentary on the latest catwalk styles.Instead, I write about things I come across in life that make me reflect.Sometimes it's serious.Sometimes it's just fun.Hopefully you'll like my writing style, find what I write about interesting and enjoy the experience.If you do, share the love using the boxes below - thank you 😀
Gillian Lewis
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About Gillian Lewis

What on earth is a Self-Image Coach I hear you ask – it’s cross between a Confidence Coach and Image Consultant.

I help clients become happier and more confident by giving them a Makeover from the Inside Out to change their internal and external view of themselves.

I'm not really interested in fashion, just what clothes can do for your self-image - that's where the Forget Fashion blog title originated, so I won't be doing much commentary on the latest catwalk styles. Instead, I write about things I come across in life that make me reflect. Sometimes it's serious. Sometimes it's just fun. Hopefully you'll like my writing style, find what I write about interesting and enjoy the experience. If you do, share the love using the boxes below - thank you :-D

Comments

  1. Lovely article – I have to say I don’t think it was long before my now husband saw me without make up – maybe three weeks? I was 18 then (now 31). Wish I still had the skin of an 18 year old! LoL

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    • Thank you Samantha – the invite is really kind. I’ll have a look 😀

      At 18, I’d probably have been more precious about being seen without makeup. I remember the hour and a half spent trowelling on foundation and facepowder. I thought I looked great, but in hindsight, probably looked hideous! I got really serious about cleansing, toning and moisturising at 30 – if you’ve not started, get into the habit with moisturiser and SPF and it will pay off big style. I’m 47 but most people are surprised by that.