No Resolutions in Sight!

It's the beginning of a New Year and all around you're being bombarded with articles and questions about your New Year's Resolutions. Heck, I've been asking myself over on Facebook!  So, you might think this blog post is another one about resolutions but actually it's not because I've never been very good about sticking to resolutions myself.

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My Resolutions

Any New Year's Resolutions I've set for myself I break with days (hours even sometimes!) and, reflecting on that this morning, I think it's because most common resolutions are based on denial:

  • I will lose weight
  • I will drink less
  • I will give up smoking
Say No to New Year's Resolutions - a blog post by Self-Image Coach, Gillian Lewis of Spectrum Coaching and Consultancy

Just Say No!

The chances are that those things that you're trying to deny yourself give you either some kind of pleasure or allow you to experience the comfort of familiarity (or habit) or you wouldn't be continuing with them. Therefore, trying to deny yourself will make that resolution really difficult to stick to.

Instead what I prefer to focus on is setting an intention: what is the goal I would like to work towards to achieve?

What do you want to set an intention to achieve?

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To set my intention the first step I take is to visualise what I want. I'm very visual so I find it easy to close my eyes and create a vision in which I can actually see what I want to experience. I imagine myself in a place where my intention has been achieved in its entirety.

Then I focus on the things I'm experiencing in that place: the smells, colours, sounds, textures, and words that I hear people say - and I take them all in.

I notice my emotions, reactions, sensations, feelings, and thoughts that are going through my head as I stand in the place where my intention has been fully delivered.

It's essential that I am excited by the prospect of what I want to achieve or it is just not going to happen - I'm just not going to be motivated to work towards the goal.

After the visualisation, I think about what I need to do to make my intention a reality. I work out the steps needed - working backwards if necessary. This might be through creating a mind map, bullet point list, or project plan depending on what I want to do. The key thing is that it has to be written down because there is something that triggers in the brain when you commit the actions to deliver your dreams to paper.

Take Action!

The next thing is to decide which step you want to take first and decide to take action on it within 24 hours to start the process of working towards the intention you have set yourself to achieve.​

The goal you have identified may be stretching but by visualising an experience that you want to be part of, and one that excites you, you're far more likely to be motivated to achieve it than if you were going through the motions of deciding on a resolution for the sake of doing so just because it's New Year.

If visualisation isn't your thing...

Not everybody is great at visualisation on their own: you might feel silly or need a few questions to be asked to help you on your way.  

If that's the case, I have a limited number of sessions that I offer to help people discover their confidence.  I'd be very happy to use that time with you helping tease out the details of what your big intention for 2015 is?

I'd love to hear your comments on this post

Gillian Lewis
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Gillian Lewis

Self Image Coach at Gillian Lewis: Spectrum Coaching and Consultancy based in Darlington, County Durham, UK
What on earth is a Self-Image Coach I hear you ask – it’s cross between a Confidence Coach and Image Consultant.

I help clients become happier and more confident by giving them a Makeover from the Inside Out to change their internal and external view of themselves.

I'm not really interested in fashion, just what clothes can do for your self-image - that's where the Forget Fashion blog title originated, so I won't be doing much commentary on the latest catwalk styles.Instead, I write about things I come across in life that make me reflect.Sometimes it's serious.Sometimes it's just fun.Hopefully you'll like my writing style, find what I write about interesting and enjoy the experience.If you do, share the love using the boxes below - thank you 😀
Gillian Lewis
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About Gillian Lewis

What on earth is a Self-Image Coach I hear you ask – it’s cross between a Confidence Coach and Image Consultant.

I help clients become happier and more confident by giving them a Makeover from the Inside Out to change their internal and external view of themselves.

I'm not really interested in fashion, just what clothes can do for your self-image - that's where the Forget Fashion blog title originated, so I won't be doing much commentary on the latest catwalk styles. Instead, I write about things I come across in life that make me reflect. Sometimes it's serious. Sometimes it's just fun. Hopefully you'll like my writing style, find what I write about interesting and enjoy the experience. If you do, share the love using the boxes below - thank you :-D