Does comparing yourself affect your confidence?

I was at Swiss Ball class this week in an effort to keep fit. I've been doing this class for nearly 2 years now and, although we change our exercises on a weekly basis, I've got to know most of the exercises over that time. I don't think it's an easy class: I'm huffing and puffing, and usually the day afterwards my core stomach muscles are aching from the work I've put in (and that makes me feel all virtuous and like I can eat cakes for the rest of the week :-D).

Imperfections? What Imperfections?

Have you ever been part of a group photo, and looked at the result only to groan because you look so terrible but all of your friends look fabulous?  Although you've probably only vaguely registered that they are in the photo because you're too intent looking at what you think are your imperfections.  Then your friends say "What a hideous photo of me" and you think they must be saying that to make you feel better?

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Keeping up appearances – do you?

I’ve just read an article in the Metro that reports on a survey carried out. The survey identified the lengths to which some women are keeping up appearances. Apparently one in twenty of the 2000 surveyed will not allow themselves to be seen without a full face of makeup by their husbands or boyfriends! [Read more…]

The Things People Say About Themselves

I frequently hear the things people say about themselves in very unguarded and honest moments.  My heart goes out to them as they open up about how they feel about how they look in the mirror, and what they see is not what I see.  It's not what you would see.  But it's what THEY see - and that often feeds into a cycle of criticism that has such wide reaching effects.

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Former Fat Person

Does anybody ever get over their body image when they lose a significant amount of weight?  It was Kelly Osbourne who first coined the phrase "Former Fat Person" when she was talking about how she viewed herself after losing 70lbs.

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How to feel beautiful

Over the years Dove have run a number of campaigns to improve women’s confidence and self esteem.  I came across this video of a campaign earlier this year which suggests there was a patch to help women how to feel beautiful. [Read more…]

Mirror, mirror on the wall….

What if the mirror could talk back to you – what would you say to it? [Read more…]

You always want what you haven’t got

I sat writing this blog post in the hairdressers since it seemed very apt given the links I wanted to share with you.

Two articles with very different views on the size of your bust: wishing you didn’t have quite so much, or wanting to have more so you can show it off: [Read more…]

Going to the Prom

The Prom seems to have taken over the thoughts of British teenagers during the school summer term.  An American cultural influence I’d say – they didn’t have it in my day!  Although when I was growing up, they did have the “Qually” in my final year of primary school which probably elicited quite a bit of our attention for some time before.  It originated from the days of the 11 plus and was really called the Qualifying Dance.  Presumably if you failed you didn’t get to go?  We didn’t have to do the 11 plus so everybody went – after several weeks of learning Scottish Cross Country Dances.  Going without a partner was perfectly acceptable (we were 11 and boys were pretty undesirable to us at that stage) and I don’t think we had a disco – it was 1979 and disco was in its infancy after all 😀 [Read more…]

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me?

I remember my Mum reciting this to me when I was young.  It was designed, no doubt, to encourage me to shrug off harsh words from other kids.  To an extent, I’m sure it worked for me, although the way I learned to respond was to lift the drawbridge on those people who were unkind and not engage with them again.  Sometimes it’s been a bit of an extreme response but it was shaped by an early experience with some jealous female friends. [Read more…]