You always want what you haven’t got

I sat writing this blog post in the hairdressers since it seemed very apt given the links I wanted to share with you.

Two articles with very different views on the size of your bust: wishing you didn’t have quite so much, or wanting to have more so you can show it off:

  1. 29 Things That Inevitably Happen When You Have Big Boobs

  2. One Woman Reveals Her Secrets For Making Your Boobs Look Way Bigger

Now, whatever you think of the motives of the lady in the second video, the reality is that many people are unhappy with some aspect of their appearance, and their self esteem can be low as a result.  This can lead to potentially extreme measures like undergoing plastic surgery or become damaging with chronic self-consciousness.

Whilst you can take steps to temporarily mask the issue (like stuffing socks in your bra if you think your bust is too small or clever make-up if you think your nose is too big) the better long term solution is to become comfortable with yourself by accepting who you are and learning to love your great points – because YOU DO have them!

As I said, I was at the hairdresser when I originally decided to write this post. I’d love to have Pre-Raphelite curls but, although I have a lot of hair, it’s actually quite fine so doesn’t keep any real style or have any volume to speak of – so curls are never going to happen which makes me sad 🙁

Instead, I have to content myself that I have straight hair that hangs very well without any real attention when I’m drying it if I revert to my signature haircut. I’ve learned to accept what complements me instead of fighting against nature to be something I’m not and that’s a path that leads to a lot of contentment.

Gillian Lewis: Spectrum blog post - "You always want what you haven't got"

Do you always see the grass being greener on the other side of the field?

What’s the Effect of Wanting What You Haven’t Got?

If you find you always want what you haven’t got, and you are dissatisfied with your life as a result, a good exercise to help overcome this is to create a list of all the reasons that you want something.  Do this for a few things that you want and you might find that there’s a common theme.  It might not be that you actually want something, but you think you *should* have something because “everybody else” has it, or you think that it will automatically create happiness for you.

If there are lots of things in your lists that relate to a poor self-image, get in touch to find out how I can help you overcome that.

I'd love to hear your comments on this post

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Gillian Lewis

Self Image Coach at Gillian Lewis: Spectrum Coaching and Consultancy based in Darlington, County Durham, UK
What on earth is a Self-Image Coach I hear you ask – it’s cross between a Confidence Coach and Image Consultant.

I help clients become happier and more confident by giving them a Makeover from the Inside Out to change their internal and external view of themselves.

I'm not really interested in fashion, just what clothes can do for your self-image - that's where the Forget Fashion blog title originated, so I won't be doing much commentary on the latest catwalk styles.Instead, I write about things I come across in life that make me reflect.Sometimes it's serious.Sometimes it's just fun.Hopefully you'll like my writing style, find what I write about interesting and enjoy the experience.If you do, share the love using the boxes below - thank you 😀
Gillian Lewis
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About Gillian Lewis

What on earth is a Self-Image Coach I hear you ask – it’s cross between a Confidence Coach and Image Consultant.

I help clients become happier and more confident by giving them a Makeover from the Inside Out to change their internal and external view of themselves.

I'm not really interested in fashion, just what clothes can do for your self-image - that's where the Forget Fashion blog title originated, so I won't be doing much commentary on the latest catwalk styles. Instead, I write about things I come across in life that make me reflect. Sometimes it's serious. Sometimes it's just fun. Hopefully you'll like my writing style, find what I write about interesting and enjoy the experience. If you do, share the love using the boxes below - thank you :-D